I try to be a good person. I really do. It’s not always easy in today’s society, but I still try. I’ve learned recently, however, that being a people pleaser can be really unhealthy. We all need boundaries or people will walk all over us. Then we end up resentful and angry, because the person we were trying to help doesn’t even appreciate what we did for them. In the psychology world, this is a prime example of co-dependency.
I am regularly a pretty passive person. I don’t enjoy conflict but I know sometimes it is necessary. I have to get pretty upset before I confront someone, but I do it when needed. I don’t call people out on their sh*t unless it’s causing a problem that’s affecting me, but just because I don’t call them out on their sh*t doesn’t mean I don’t smell it. (I’m having to use * in my curse words so that Facebook will leave me alone about my posts.)
I try to communicate effectively. I say what I mean and mean what I say. I don’t want to be the type of person that tries to manipulate people through their words or feels the need to say things that are passive aggressive. I’m not saying that I don’t fall into the trap of doing this sometimes, but I try to be aware of it to prevent myself from acting that way.
So what does a person who attempts to do these things get for a reward? “Nothing!”, you say. Not true. You get the coolest T-shirt I have every seen! (You have to pay for it yourself though. This blog doesn’t pull in any money and I’m a little broke.). I saw this T-shirt and felt like it was made just for me. It says, “I’m mostly peace, love, and light and a Little Go F*ck Yourself.” This is the kind of attitude I have these days and it’s been working pretty well for me. If you feel like this shirt is a good description of you too, you can find it on Amazon. If you don’t like it, go f*ck yourself!
Stephanie Walters 